3 ways boring sex is killing your relationship.

Is sex really that important in a marriage? Can lack of passion between couples lead to a breakdown or even a divorce? As long as we’re doing it about once a week, does it matter if one person (typically the woman) doesn’t get much satisfaction from it?

I won’t bore you with any statistics, though there are several, let’s just go straight to the point so you can see how a lack of passionate sex is unknowingly killing your relationship.

1. Sex was created to be a high couples chase that keeps them glued to each other.

I know a couple who after a year of marriage, the husband asked his wife the most ridiculous question ever: “In this one year of marriage, how many times do you think I’ve thrusted you?” I think he was feeling pretty stoked about the numbers like it was some accomplishment. 😂😂😂

But jokes aside, have you ever wondered why our desire for sex seems insatiable? Like no matter how many times you’ve done it, you still want to do it.

It is this insatiability that makes sex continue to sell like food and water. Until we die, the desire for that ecstatic pleasure will always keep us longing for more.

I believe this is rooted in the whole idea of marriage itself. Think about it, a man and a woman come together because of their love and desire for each other, then they start a family and the responsibilities begin to tumble in.

Before you know it, they are swimming in bills, cleaning, cooking, school runs, doctor’s appointments etc. All these day in day out. It doesn’t take too long for them to realize, if I were just on my own, I won’t have to take on all these responsibilities.

But yet, I cannot be on my own because this other person provides an intimacy that I really desire… This I believe is one of the reasons why sex was made and was made for marriage alone.

The intimacy (both physical &emotional) binds you, as it ought to, and the pleasure satisfies your longings and refuels your desire for each other, as you commit to the daily task of meeting needs that may not feel pleasurable. The lovemaking was created to continue to make you in love.

Sex is addictive because it was created to be a high you chase together that keeps you pleasurably glued to each other as you have committed to.

Therefore, when the sex is dry, routine, boring, lacking in passion and intimacy, one of the marriage glues is losing its potency. And your life together becomes just one long, unending chore.

2. The less the pleasure, the less the willingness and frequency.

Many women go through the early years of their marriage simply doing it because it’s part of marriage.

Don’t get me wrong, they do desire it, they feel the urge, it’s hormonal so you will feel it every now and then whether you like it or not, but when they get down to the activity itself, the husband climaxes while they are just beginning to enjoy it.

And that is the beginning of what might seem like a lifetime of dutiful sex. At first, it’s okay, you go through the motions, perhaps thinking each time will be different, but passionate sex is a learned skill, and unless you learn it, nothing changes, your husband climaxes again and sort of leaves you hanging.

It’s only a matter of time before you let it sink in that you may never really enjoy sex. You may even think it’s you, that somehow you as a person just don’t really enjoy it, which is not true!

And if this settles in your mind, little by little, you become less willing to participate, there will just be other “important things” taking your time, making you too tired etc., and before you know it – sexual breakdown. (We haven’t had sex in a month!🙊)

A lack of passionate, mutually pleasurable sex is the root of sexual breakdown, which eventually leads to marriage breakdown. But this doesn’t have to be you, you don’t have to settle and you don’t have to watch your beautiful marriage lose its passion.

A couple of months ago, I shared with several couples the very practical tips that helped them begin to enjoy sex and revive their passion. It was real, relatable and raw. It’s like giving you a google map direction to the land of ecstasy! And it is so affordable. Watch it now.

3. The less the frequency and passion, the more the chances of infidelity.

Ofcourse, you know this already. Sexual fulfillment is a high we will keep desiring. So when there’s no passion at home, you open the door to infidelity. And please, this is not gender specific.

Any man or woman who isn’t reaching orgasm with their spouse can easily fall for any seducer, with the promise of “breathtaking pleasure”. If you think this isn’t true , ask yourself why you watch a sex scene in a movie and it instantly captivates you?

They are simply selling you the idea of “passionate pleasure” and if you aren’t already getting that, and a real person comes along, saying and doing all the right things with the added hope of “finally passion”, you may fall flat on your face.

Don’t think your marriage can continue to survive a lack of passionate lovemaking. It can’t! And it may be too late when you find out sex isn’t just an afterthought of creation, it’s actually a crucial part of it to ensure the marriage and the family unit (which is the foundation of society) stays strong. This is why the enemy is so invested in corrupting it.

Watch the webinar now to jumpstart the passion and protect or rebuild your beautiful intimacy.

What point stood out to you the most? Let me know in the comments, I love hearing from you ❤️.

With Christ’s exotic love,

Mrs Omoghene.