From DMs to “I Do”: How to attract a godly suitor online.

My husband and I met in church. In those days online dating wasn’t a thing, your only chance of meeting new prospects and potential suitors was in person, in church, social gatherings, work, grocery shopping or just going about daily life.

Personally that is still my favorite way of meeting people (cos I’m an introvert, lol). You can instantly see them, assess them, get their vibe and know what you’re in for. The only downside to this is you can only meet so many people physically and that’s if you are intentional about leaving your house and ensuring you’re actually meeting new people, not the same old people you already know.

With online dating however, there is the possibility of meeting people from all over the world and different works of life, and you can easily meet new people each time you go online, with just a click on your phone. The only, but very major downside been there are so many unscrupulous fellows online with shady, selfish even destructive intentions.

How then can you find and attract a godly suitor online instead of miscreants and time wasters.

1. Have an online presence that screams Value!👸👑🤴

This has little to do with the frequency of your posts but the content you do post. What do you share online? What image of yourself do you portray? Is it clear and obvious that you have a relationship with God? This is not about recording yourself praying or things like that, it’s about the fact that a private fellowship will have evidence in your public associations. If it’s truly there, it’d reflect in how you appear online (dressing, music, captions, dancing etc.)

When a godly man or woman stumbles on your page, they should instantly be able to tell that you’re a sibling in Christ based on what you have shared and the eternal life (Zoe) vibe in your posts.

If your online presence is a stark difference from who you really are, because you’re trying to keep up with trends, you will either attract phony individuals who are unserious and are just out to waste your time or a good person will stumble on your page and not know what you’re about and just leave.

Apart from your relationship with Christ which is a priority, value is also about what you do for work , your purpose in life, your hobbies etc. The kind of sense you share should only attract people with sense. And if you are sharing nonsense, you will also only attract nonsense, that’s what social media does! And the scriptures have always said it

“Deep calls unto deep at the noise of Your waterfalls; All Your waves and billows have gone over me.”
‭‭Psalms‬ ‭42‬:‭7‬ ‭NKJV‬‬
Deep calls unto deep! If you’re deep, you attract deep divers. If you’re shallow, you attract testers, people who aren’t sure if they want to get wet.

So at the end of this post, go to your social media pages and do a quick inventory. Ask yourself: if the kind of godly serious man that I desire finds this page, will he know clearly that I’m also a godly woman chasing God and growth? Will he/she like what they see? Is this a true reflection not just of who I am but who I am further evolving into? If the answers are no, you know what to do.

You want a godly man who is serious about God, life and the pursuit of of purpose and when he stumbles on your bio, he sees “baddie”, or even “Jesus baddie” 😂, and then your pictures are with a lit bit of cleavage or a lot of thigh, or your reels are all shaking bum bum videos, how na? Make it make sense today.

After deleting what doesn’t speak value, begin to work on yourself to become more and more of a person of value. Do the inner work of discipline, commitment to godly practices, growth&self development, pursuit of purpose etc., and let that reflect in your outer engagements.

And if you’re already a person of value, doing great things behind the scenes, don’t hide that value under the guise of privacy, self doubt etc. Christ has commanded you to shine, therefore let your light shine that men may see your good works!

2. Make the algorithm work for you!

Social media algorithm is stressful, I know this too well as a creator. I’m always thinking of how to get in front of new people. 😥. But one thing social media has never done is put the wrong people in front of me. Based on my likes and interaction with content, the algorithm knows what I want to see and brings it my way. I cannot remember the last time I saw a post by any worldly musician for example, that’s if at all I’ve ever seen that in the past.

So you can make the algorithm know clearly what you stand for and it’d keep putting people with similar values in front of you and as you continue to interact (like, comment, share), you’d keep finding people of like mind – godly singles who are serious and ready for marriage.

Therefore, who you follow matters, whether you like or comment or share matters even more. If you read an inspiring post from my page @mrsomoghene, for example, it made sense to you, gave you clarity etc and you just do “hmmm” and scroll, the algorithm assumes you don’t really like that content.

Then you scroll to a funny reel/meme of someone doing something silly and you instantly like, comment by tagging a friend or share to a friend, the algorithm thinks yes this is her kind of stuff and instantly starts bringing more of that your way. And when one funny fellow sees your comment and slides into your dm with casual nonsense, you’d be wondering how? They found your comment on that funny senseless reel or that gossip blog page, that’s how it happened.

If you want serious, godly people to find you online, interact more with serious godly content. Commenting on those content especially is how you can show who you are to the world, in fact that’s how one of my friends met her husband. He told me “I always read her comments on the group we both belonged too and it was always thoughtful and full of depth, I just had to get to know her”.

Follow and interact with those who reflect where you want to go! Like it, comment on it, share it! Their serious godly followers will see it and the algorithm will keep bringing more serious godly people your way.

Here’s my handle again, @mrsomoghene, I have too much contents for you, have fun liking, commenting and sharing ❤️. Your person may be one of my followers ooo. A word is enough for the ….

3. Go public or don’t bother.

Is it possible to attract a godly suitor online with a private page? Probably, but I doubt it. How will they see your content? How will they know who you are, what you stand for and if you’re their kind of person?

If you want to attract a godly suitor online, go public, but curate and be very intentional about what you share, that’s my best advice. Let your light shine! Unless you have something to hide, do you?

Before you leave…

Did this make sense to you? If yes, I’m glad it did. The time I spent putting it together was not in vain. Now do me a solid one : share it your WhatsApp status or instagram stories with a message of how you loved this post. Feel free to tag me @mrsomoghene, and hit follow if you haven’t already. Help my team and I reach our goal of reaching 5000 singles this year! God bless you 🙏

With Christ’s exotic love,

Mrs Omoghene.

P.S: which of them points resonated the most with you? Share it with me in the comments 😍