Shy girls finish last.(How to attract a godly man)

In all of my life I have never seen a rolls Royce advert, and I heard it said it’s because the ones that can afford them are not busy watching TV.

As a woman of value, you don’t need to advertise your worth before a man with equal value sees it. And the moment you have to tell a guy “don’t you know my worth”, or even think it, it means that relationship isn’t worth it. In most cases, they know your worth, they just want to degrade you so they can afford you.

Therefore, to get seen/ found by the right kind of man, a godly man, try these 4 things :

1. Know your worth and let it be known. Shine as the light that you are!

Be excellently present in all that you do. Be consistent in the pursuit of your goals. Be unapologetic about your godly position and standards. Be loud and proud of your relationship with the Lord.

My husband shared the story of how he first noticed me. He said “I was attracted to the way you composed yourself, how you were always the first to open the Bible passages, how you read so beautifully!” That was in the youth church we both belonged to.

I was an introvert, I still am, but not when it comes to my interests and the first of which is Christ! I show up fully. I thrive in spiritual environments where the word is the focus and I have no inhibitions in such rooms.

So if you desire to be noticed by a godly man, be a godly woman yourself and show up fully as that daily. Spiritual today, worldly tomorrow, will confuse the one interested in you. Be the kind of woman that the kind of man you desire, will desire.

If you desire a man of depth in the word, be a woman of depth yourself. If you desire a man that fasts and prays, how often do you do the same? If you desire a man fully living out his purpose, are you fully living out yours? Remember the scripture says “deep calls unto deep” Psalm 42:7. Make it clear as day, on all your social media platforms and the physical spaces you’re in here, who you are, whose you are, and what you stand for.

When you do this, you won’t beg to be noticed by the right person!

2. Be available and accessible.

Be accessible! There’s nothing shy or withdrawn about Christianity. We are literally lights and what is the benefit of a light that is hidden? It gives darkness an opportunity to thrive. So, be available and accessible. Be open and willing to make new friends and connect with like minded people. When opportunities come to mingle in the right crowds, don’t turn them down. In fact, if no such opportunity is coming your way, create opportunities around your interests.

Social media has given that ability to everyone. It gives you the opportunity to meet people you may not have access to otherwise. So be accessible online. Take your page off private (nothing is truly private as long as it is shared online), rather share only things you are comfortable letting random strangers know, like your interests, post around your hobbies, vocations and stuff like that.

When you see posts that interest you or you have an opinion on, comment on them. Follow people who reflect your values, join groups that are in line with your interests and comment, comment, comment! Share your thoughts, let others get to know you. This is how you meet new people outside your normal routine, and get noticed by like minded people.

Be interested and active about forming new friendships and widening your circle. This will help you not just in meeting potential suitors but making great friends, associates, expanding in your career/business etc.

If you trust God to meet the right person for you, take steps to prove your faith by coming out of your comfort zone and engaging with the world around you both in person and online. Have a plan for going out and meeting people physically, have a social calendar for events and activities happening around you and plan to be at the ones that interest you. At these events, connect, network and make friends by being helpful and kind. You will love how you’re evolving in the process, you’d grow and learn, make new friends and you just may meet that one for you.

In case you’re thinking, “but I go out, I think I’m accessible”, ask yourself this: “how many new people have I met this month?”. If the answer is zero, you’re most likely stuck in your comfort zone/routine and this is not good for you as a single person or as a witness of Christ. Get out of your comfort zone and let others discover the beauty that you are.

3. Be open about your relationship status.

This doesn’t mean stamp single on your forehead or in your bio. But when you do share, don’t hide the fact that you’re single especially when asked. Be open to conversations around your relationship status. Don’t wear “confusing” rings on your left ring finger. Follow people who post godly content for singles, have singles community, and engage with them. Doing this will open you up to singles like you.

Be open to matchmaking even if it’s novel to you. Let family and friends know the kind of person you are interested in, so they can connect you should they meet someone matching your desire. A simple “I’m open to meeting people, keep me in mind if you find someone that is godly and ….” might go a long way to expanding your circle, causing you to meet new prospects.

Don’t say “but they already know I’m single”, sure they do, but they aren’t always thinking about you. When you mention that to them however, it’s possible they’d do a mental search and recommend someone they know, or you’d come to their mind when they do meet someone that matches your basic criteria. At worst you’d make a new friend, at best, you’d meet your person!

Christian dating apps? I’m not really a fan of this, but it could be because my knowledge of it is limited. So if you have one that has good reports and the possibility of meeting like minded people, Go for it, but go with the mindset of getting to know people as friends first.

Of course you have to be careful about the wrong kind of people, but be aware that there are also good people looking to meet a good person like you. So again, If there’s one that has good reports, and you have the emotional maturity to take things slowly, try it out, to meet people you may not have met otherwise. But get to know whoever you meet on there gradually as friends first.

4. Repeat step 1,2,3.

Don’t stop and don’t get discouraged. Keep shining, keep engaging and stay open. I know it can get exhausting, like “I do all these and yet I’m just not meeting anyone”, but love and marriage isn’t a sprint, it’s a lifelong marathon, so don’t give up too quickly. Sometimes, you are doing the right things, but you simply need to continue doing them to get the right result. So don’t give up too quickly, your godly man is right around the corner.

And if you’re really feeling discouraged and don’t have it in you to even try, then you need to read “Your Wait Is Over”. You may have had terrible experiences in relationship that has filled your heart with pain and doubt. However, in the book “Your Wait is Over”, your hope, joy and peace will be restored as you see several scriptures and stories of people like you that God eventually came through for.

Here’s a comment from someone that really touched me 👇🏾

Before you leave

Don’t remain in self pity, feeling at a disadvantage. Don’t end this year sad and bitter about your past, unsure of what the coming year holds. Get “Your Wait is Over” as a Christmas gift for yourself, so your joy can be restored and your hope renewed, and especially so you can know the practical steps you need to take this new year to meet the right person for you, your godly man.

What part of these steps did you find most helpful and relevant as you wait for your godly partner? Share it with me in the comments. I’d love to hear from you and encourage you specifically.

Also share this post to your single friends and on your stories/statuses using the social media links below🙏. Feel free to tag me @mrsomoghene. I’d love to connect with you on the streets of social media.

With Christ’s enduring love,

Mrs Omoghene.