We have come a long way from “a woman’s place is in her husband’s kitchen” to women in charge of boardrooms and taking the fore front of leadership and innovation, essentially redefining success.
Other women have looked at women leaders in awe, wondering how they do it all. In fact, one of the most asked questions to successful women is “how do you balance it all?”
And in a lot of cases, the simple answer is this – by choosing the right person to do it all with!
Your success as a multitasking, multidimensional woman rests heavily on who you’re doing life with and that person’s perspectives and potentials. He can either make it easy or incredibly difficult.
Therefore passionate driven women usually need these four qualities in a husband:
1. Self Esteem.
The worst environment for success is with low self esteem. Nothing grows there. A man with low self esteem will greatly hinder a strong woman by being too needy, possessive and demanding, all in a bid to stroke his ego and feel important. A man with low self esteem is hard to satisfy because he is not satisfied in his own identity.
Although Passionate driven women love their husbands dearly, they cannot afford to waste their potentials by being needlessly tied to his apron strings, waiting on his every need.
A passionate woman therefore thrives in the company of a man who is confident in his own worth as a son of God, called for a specific purpose and chasing after his God given dreams.
This man is not only accepting of her drive, he is full of pride because of it. He enjoys seeing her thrive and each of her achievements is like an extra feather in his cap.
From the early days of their relationship he shows up for her, celebrates her, praises her and on into their marriage, continually makes allowances for her to fly.
2. Supportiveness.
Most passionate driven women never get fulfilled playing only the traditional roles of wife and mom. They love their family, but continually experience an hunger for more, a deep desire to express their other talents and pursue other aspirations outside of the home.
But because they are given to excellence, they cannot simply walk out the door without ensuring that their families are in great, trustworthy hands.
If this is you, know that your second need in a partner is support. A man who is willing to do whatever needs to be done to give his wife the time she needs, to do what she was born to do. He doesn’t see cooking and cleaning as beneath him or as a woman’s job, they are simply tasks that must be carried out to ensure smooth running of the home. He treats her as an equal partner, not a maid because he recognizes her potential for more.
With this mentality, he is able to provide immeasurable support either by physically getting things done himself or outsourcing cooking, cleaning and other chores, so his wife can freely pursue and be successful in her ventures outside the home.
3. Spirituality.
A passionate driven woman who understands that her drive is God-given, also understands the spiritual nature of all her pursuits. She recognizes that her life and all that pertains to it is built on a spiritual foundation and can only be sustained by spirituality.
She therefore doesn’t need a man who will quench her fire, but one who burns with her and together they fan each other’s flames. A carnal man is ruled by the flesh and follows his feelings. His decisions which are taken based on the flesh will negatively affect her and may even hinder her from succeeding in her calling.
However , a spiritual man who hears from God and is led by His Spirit will greatly enhance her. He will sense when trouble is coming and step up to avert it. He will receive and follow directions that will greatly benefit their family.
He will provide scriptural guidance in her personal pursuits. He will create an environment where she can thrive spiritually and pick up guidance from the Lord. He will cover and protect her and may even save her life through his continuous prayers and counsel.
The same God that gave her that drive and passion, gave her a need for covering and headship. And just as she needs physical and emotional support, even much more she needs spiritual support, she needs a head that truly covers.
4. Sacrifice.
This is the capital quality that a passionate driven woman needs. A man that is willing to lay down his life for her, as Christ did for His church.
A self seeking man will lord his needs over her. In his eyes, he is more important. He will quote scriptures like “wives submit yourself to your husbands” to justify his position. Forgetting that this scripture should be his wife’s focus not his. His focus should be on “love your wife as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her”.
A sacrificial man lives in the consciousness of making sacrifices so his wife can fly. He goes beyond “not putting her down”, to paying the price to “build her up”. He’s not on the fence as some are, (not hurting but not helping either), he’s actively by her side providing support, behind her providing protection, in front of her providing leadership.
This man is a gem, a keeper, an 100% Husband Material. If you’re fortunate to have him in your life, go all out to show him love and appreciation daily.
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Rooting for you always,
Wonuola Omoghene
P.S : ChatGPT called me the clarity queen, I wholly agree. I know this gave you clarity on exactly what to focus on as you search for love, so I ask that you pay it forward by sharing this post with your single friends. Looking forward to helping you gain more clarity in the Relationship Mentoring Program!
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