Last December, I cut my hair, for the 3rd (and hopefully last time) since I got to the States.
I decided to start afresh, and this time , no more relaxers or harsh chemicals, only moisturizers, conditioners and basically a lot of pampering.
I made this decision because I saw how the girls hair was thriving with the way I cared for it naturally.
And my hair has started thriving too. It’s still short but it’s not breaking at all, and its just soft and full. I love it!
And I love the confidence of knowing that I’m on the right path.
Can I say the same for my face? Nope! I guess I just assumed that being in the states, my skin will just naturally glow. Boy, have I been disappointed?
I have finally decided to take action, and get skin care products for my face.
WHAT HAS THIS GOT TO DO WITH YOUR RELATIONSHIP?
1) You must be intentional about it.
Just like your skin and hair won’t thrive unless you’re intentional about it, your relationship won’t thrive unless you’re intentional about it.
A lot of times, we just expect our love life to sort itself. We assume that because we are generally a good person, a born again Christian etc., and we have chosen a good person (based on our current knowledge) that everything will just work out.
Unfortunately, it doesn’t work that way.
Much like your skin, your relationship is an asset that requires intentional input for it to be beautiful.
Everyday, you make withdrawals from your relationship, if you don’t consciously set time, money, effort aside to invest in it, one day, you’d just find that your account is overdrawn, and the love is gone…
2)Continuity and Consistency matters.
If you’ve been good in the past with your skin and hair care routine, then you suddenly stop, everything will still look good for a little while, until it starts to fall apart.
Your relationship with your partner is just like that. If you stop learning new ways to improve on your relationship and you stop investing in each other, things may be okay for a while, then slowly, resentment will start to build up, arguments get heated etc.
Don’t let that be you.
As someone who read a number of books before marriage and courted for 7 years, I can tell you for a fact, that when learning and investing stops, things slowly begin to fall apart.
3)Cheap investments may not produce the kind of results you want.
People are always looking for freebies or cheap resources when it comes to investing in their relationship and marriage.
But if someone were to offer you a free product to test on your face, I bet you would think twice before accepting that.
Your lifetime relationship with your partner should be even more precious to you.
Free advice on social media may be good, but what works one for one person may not work for another. It’s best to seek out wisdom for your own relationship, that will help you avoid unnecessary mistakes and set you on the path of a lifetime of love and happiness.
Don’t go into marriage with an attitude that it would automatically work out because you are good people and you love each other.
There are so many good people, who loved each other, who are now divorced.
Invest in learning the specifics of how to make it work.
You can begin to do that by taking this workshop.👇
In this workshop, you will learn:
- An important principle about marriage that helps you and your partner become successful in your relationship.
- 3 things you both can begin to do to be a better spouse.
Make it a date night with your partner. You’d learn together and bond even more.
Don’t wait, slots are filling up fast.
Can’t wait to meet you.💛
Mrs O.
Courtship&Marriage 